You may think I'm crazy, but being called a "SUPERMOM" triggers all sorts of contrasting feelings for me. On the one hand, it makes me cringe and make me feel like a fraud, because I am really thinking "I'm really not that super -- you should see my office desk and my kids' play area-you would change your mind real fast." On the other hand, I'd like to just accept the statement for what it was likely intended, a compliment.
Let's all get more comfortable with OWNING THIS TITLE.
I appreciate that the mom saying it intends it to be a compliment. However, in a backhanded sort of way, they reduce their own efforts as a mother. Frankly, no mother that I've ever met is a lesser mom than me. There is nothing that makes me superior to any other mom. Thus, any time the statement is made in front of me, about me, I am very quick to state how I feel: "We are all super mothers. Where I lack in an area, someone else does an exceptional job at it."
For example, I am extremely bad at taking pictures/videos. I try to take them on special occasions, or when the kids are dressed up, but that usually is on a day that we all needed to get ready (including me combing my hair and wearing makeup, which is another challenging task). On the flip side, many of my friends have prioritized this and made beautiful scrapbooks (physical and digital), which their kids will cherish when they grow up. I look to these friends for motivation to do a better job of memorializing our family experiences.
Did I say something wrong?
When someone calls me a SuperMom, it makes me wonder if I have done or said something to make them feel like a lesser mom. That is never my intention. In fact, it is quite the opposite. I want everyone to acknowledge what their strengths are and gain confidence from those strengths, while providing motivation and/or advice where someone may be seeking it to improve in an area. I have many areas that I seek to improve in, so I find a friend or two that excel in that area for advice and motivation.
No mother that I've ever met is a lesser mom than me. If I share something with someone, it's really because they may have presented an issue as a problem and I'm making a suggestion based on either my experience with the same issue or a friend's experience that I have knowledge of. There is nothing that makes one of us a superior mother to any other mother. But if you are willing to acknowledge that you are also a 'SuperMom,' then I'm more comfortable with the idea that we are all super in some form.
Every Mom I Know Loves Their Children. Every Mom I Know Works Extremely Hard.
Let's embrace being superMOMS!